Comments on: I Have a Problem With “You” http://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you Improve Online for Social Networking and Social Media Sun, 13 May 2012 13:29:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Twitter Response from @moritherapy « TweetTrackhttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3431 Twitter Response from @moritherapy « TweetTrack Fri, 22 Feb 2008 07:16:07 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3431 [...] 22, 2008 ok, enough chatting on http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/ even though it’s fun. gotta sleep so that i’m ready for northern [...] [...] 22, 2008 ok, enough chatting on http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/ even though it’s fun. gotta sleep so that i’m ready for northern [...]

]]> By: isabella morihttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3430 isabella mori Fri, 22 Feb 2008 07:04:51 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3430 actually, i think i've been here before. ronald, your name sounded a bit familiar but what stood out was the font/design of your blog name, i definitely remember that. actually, i think i’ve been here before. ronald, your name sounded a bit familiar but what stood out was the font/design of your blog name, i definitely remember that.

]]> By: inspirationbithttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3429 inspirationbit Fri, 22 Feb 2008 07:01:31 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3429 :-) it was fun to read your conversation, Isabella and Ronald (glad you didn't see me blushing while reading your compliments ;-) ).It is indeed a small world, especially the world of blogs. I'm surprised though that you haven't "met" each other before - I've talked quite a lot in past about Ronald and his plugins on my blog and only last week I introduced Isabella as a guest writer on Inspiration Bit and mentioned that we know each other in the off-line world as well... ;-) :-) it was fun to read your conversation, Isabella and Ronald (glad you didn’t see me blushing while reading your compliments ;-) ).

It is indeed a small world, especially the world of blogs. I’m surprised though that you haven’t “met” each other before – I’ve talked quite a lot in past about Ronald and his plugins on my blog and only last week I introduced Isabella as a guest writer on Inspiration Bit and mentioned that we know each other in the off-line world as well… ;-)

]]> By: isabella morihttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3428 isabella mori Fri, 22 Feb 2008 06:56:04 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3428 and you know what, i didn't even find you through vivien. i found you on stumbleupon, through someone who had stumbled one of MY posts! and you know what, i didn’t even find you through vivien. i found you on stumbleupon, through someone who had stumbled one of MY posts!

]]> By: Ronald Huerecahttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3427 Ronald Huereca Fri, 22 Feb 2008 06:51:00 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3427 @Isabella,Yes, Vivien is a wonderful woman. I've worked with her a lot in the past. She came up with the idea for the "Edit Comments" plugin, and we've had a mutual blogger relationship with plugins/guest posts.It is indeed a small world. @Isabella,

Yes, Vivien is a wonderful woman. I’ve worked with her a lot in the past. She came up with the idea for the “Edit Comments” plugin, and we’ve had a mutual blogger relationship with plugins/guest posts.

It is indeed a small world.

]]> By: isabella morihttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3426 isabella mori Fri, 22 Feb 2008 06:46:34 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3426 oh yes, i know vivien, even did a guest post on her blog the other day. she's a wonderful woman, face-to-face, too! if you haven't been to her blog yet, please go there, she has one of the best IT blogs out there.also know simonne.it's funny, there are millions of blogs out there but after a while it becomes a pretty small world ... oh yes, i know vivien, even did a guest post on her blog the other day. she’s a wonderful woman, face-to-face, too! if you haven’t been to her blog yet, please go there, she has one of the best IT blogs out there.

also know simonne.

it’s funny, there are millions of blogs out there but after a while it becomes a pretty small world …

]]> By: Ronald Huerecahttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3425 Ronald Huereca Fri, 22 Feb 2008 06:36:23 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3425 Thanks Isabella,I'm glad you liked my points and image. I almost thought it was too blunt :)BTW, we have another reader here from Vancouver. Vivien from <a href='http://www.insirationbit.com' rel="nofollow">Inspiration Bit</a> above in the comments. Do you know her by chance?Anyways, thanks for the comment. Thanks Isabella,

I’m glad you liked my points and image. I almost thought it was too blunt :)

BTW, we have another reader here from Vancouver. Vivien from Inspiration Bit above in the comments. Do you know her by chance?

Anyways, thanks for the comment.

]]> By: isabella morihttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3424 isabella mori Fri, 22 Feb 2008 01:07:01 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3424 very, very, very good points.love the image, too, it does exactly what you talk about in your post: rather than saying "you should not always use the word 'you'", it illustrates visually the sometimes a bit accusatory nature of heaping our readers with advice. very, very, very good points.

love the image, too, it does exactly what you talk about in your post: rather than saying “you should not always use the word ‘you’”, it illustrates visually the sometimes a bit accusatory nature of heaping our readers with advice.

]]> By: Ronald Huerecahttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3423 Ronald Huereca Sun, 17 Feb 2008 01:00:49 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3423 Graham Smith »Thanks for visiting. I'm glad you find this site so useful. If there's anything I can do for you, or if you have anything you would like us to write about, please let me know.InspirationBit (Vivien) »I was always taught in English class it is okay to use he/she. Using which one is a matter of preference. Graham Smith »

Thanks for visiting. I’m glad you find this site so useful. If there’s anything I can do for you, or if you have anything you would like us to write about, please let me know.

InspirationBit (Vivien) »

I was always taught in English class it is okay to use he/she. Using which one is a matter of preference.

]]> By: Graham Smithhttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3422 Graham Smith Sat, 16 Feb 2008 09:59:29 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3422 Please forgive the seemingly unrelated comment to your post.I have just this morning found your site whilst doing a search for wordpress comment plug-ins.I have been concentrating on making my blog comment/people friendly so have been researching better ways to do this, without overloading my poor plugin library.The moment I started reading this site I was hooked. So OK, i was/am in bed with a nice coffee with my laptop. I havn't got around to reading much much have read some of your more recent articles and have found them incredibly useful.It's great to have a site like this that is geared around these issues. So have signed up and will be a regular commentator for sure. I love leaving comments, I tend to waffle a bit, but certainly tend to exercise my fingers. So just humour me. :0)Will look forward to receiving more updates. BTW, just going to test one your edit comment plugin which was how I ended up here.Great stuff,<b>Graham Smith</b> <a>ImJustBlogging</a> Blog and Web Ramblings from my Gutter. Please forgive the seemingly unrelated comment to your post.

I have just this morning found your site whilst doing a search for wordpress comment plug-ins.

I have been concentrating on making my blog comment/people friendly so have been researching better ways to do this, without overloading my poor plugin library.

The moment I started reading this site I was hooked. So OK, i was/am in bed with a nice coffee with my laptop. I havn’t got around to reading much much have read some of your more recent articles and have found them incredibly useful.

It’s great to have a site like this that is geared around these issues. So have signed up and will be a regular commentator for sure. I love leaving comments, I tend to waffle a bit, but certainly tend to exercise my fingers. So just humour me. :0)

Will look forward to receiving more updates. BTW, just going to test one your edit comment plugin which was how I ended up here.

Great stuff,

Graham Smith
ImJustBlogging
Blog and Web Ramblings from my Gutter.

]]> By: inspirationbithttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3421 inspirationbit Sat, 16 Feb 2008 07:45:04 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3421 Very good point, Ronald. I constantly think about overusing "you" in my posts. Sometimes I replace it with "I" or "We", but when I write it in a third person, I don't want to offend any gender and usually end up writing somethings like: "One responds to comments when he/she wants the reader to feel a connection with the author." But then I'm not sure if it's okay to write like that - he/she? Very good point, Ronald. I constantly think about overusing “you” in my posts. Sometimes I replace it with “I” or “We”, but when I write it in a third person, I don’t want to offend any gender and usually end up writing somethings like: “One responds to comments when he/she wants the reader to feel a connection with the author.”
But then I’m not sure if it’s okay to write like that – he/she?

]]> By: Ronald Huerecahttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3420 Ronald Huereca Fri, 15 Feb 2008 22:03:53 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3420 @Andrew, Thanks for the compliment. Using "you" isn't bad, just only when it is unintentionally attacking or talking down to someone.@Simonne, I can definitely relate to the language differences. There's not really anything equivalent in Spanish either. Think of "one" as saying, "a person". For example, "When one does..." can be replaced with, "When a person does this..." or even "When someone does..."Hope that helps clarify :) @Andrew,
Thanks for the compliment. Using “you” isn’t bad, just only when it is unintentionally attacking or talking down to someone.

@Simonne,
I can definitely relate to the language differences. There’s not really anything equivalent in Spanish either. Think of “one” as saying, “a person”. For example, “When one does…” can be replaced with, “When a person does this…” or even “When someone does…”

Hope that helps clarify :)

]]> By: Simonnehttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3419 Simonne Fri, 15 Feb 2008 21:23:24 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3419 This is funny how languages can differ sometimes. For example, in Romanian, "one should be more transparent" and "you should be more transparent" are both of them translated with the equivalent of the second one. Not having one of these constructions in the native language makes it more difficult to understand. When I first heard "one should do ....", my first thought was "Who is "one"?" This is funny how languages can differ sometimes. For example, in Romanian, “one should be more transparent” and “you should be more transparent” are both of them translated with the equivalent of the second one. Not having one of these constructions in the native language makes it more difficult to understand. When I first heard “one should do ….”, my first thought was “Who is “one”?”

]]> By: Andrewhttp://socialimprove.com/blog/i-have-a-problem-with-you#comment-3418 Andrew Fri, 15 Feb 2008 17:48:34 +0000 http://www.raproject.com/articles/i-have-a-problem-with-you/#comment-3418 Excellent post Ronald. I've never considered that using 'you' might be read as an accusation. I try to use it to engage with my readers but clearly I should think more about it when I do. Excellent post Ronald. I’ve never considered that using ‘you’ might be read as an accusation. I try to use it to engage with my readers but clearly I should think more about it when I do.

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